The One Anothers

Below are 60 (or so) verses in the New Testament that describe the way Christians ought to relate to one another. I have organized them by topic. By the way, the Bible study that meets in our home is called "Wananada Wednesdays" in honor of these passages.
(Note to mainlanders: Wananada is Hawaiian Pidgin for "one another" (sort of).)
(Note to Rich: thanks for reminding me to include Wananada.)
(Note to nerds: these are all the relevant verses that use the Greek word allelon, one another, and the verses where heautos is translated as one another.)

Love One Another
Jn 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
Jn 13:35 By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.
Jn 15:12 12 This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.
Jn 15:17 This I command you, that you love one another.
Ro 13:8 Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law.
1 Th 3:12 and may the Lord cause you to increase and abound in love for one another, and for all men, just as we also do for you…
1 Th 4:9 you yourselves are taught by God to love one another
2 Th 1:3 the love of each one of you toward one another grows ever greater…
1 Pe 1:22 Since you have… purified your souls for a sincere love of the brethren, fervently love one another from the heart…
1 Pe 4:8 Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.
1 Jn 3:11 For this is the message which you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another…
1 Jn 3:23 And this is His commandment, that we believe in the name of His Son Jesus Christ, and love one another…
1 Jn 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.
1 Jn 4:11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
1 Jn 4:12 No one has beheld God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us.
2 Jn 5 And now I ask you, lady, not as writing to you a new commandment, but the one which we have had from the beginning, that we love one another.

Value One Another in Humility
Ro 12:10 give preference to one another in honor…
Ro 12:16 Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation.
Eph 5:21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.
Php 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself.
1 Pe 5:5 You younger men, likewise, be subject to your elders; and all of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another.

Serve One Another
Jn 13:14 If I then, the Lord and the Teacher, washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.
Ro 15:14 I am convinced that you are… able to admonish one another.
Ga 5:13 For you were called to freedom, brethren; only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.
Ga 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ.
Eph 5:19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord…
Col 3:16 Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs…
Jas 5:16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, so that you may be healed.
1 Pe 4:9 Be hospitable to one another without complaint.
1 Pe 4:10 As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.

Build One Another Up
Ro 1:1 (RSV) … that we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine.
Ro 14:19 So then let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.
1 Th 4:18 Therefore comfort one another with these words.
1 Th 5:11 Therefore encourage one another, and build up one another, just as you also are doing.
Heb 10:24 and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds…

Don’t Tear One Another Down
Ro 14:13 Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this—not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother’s way.
1 Co 6:7 Actually, then, it is already a defeat for you, that you have lawsuits with one another. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded?
1 Co 7:5 [Husbands and wives,] stop depriving one another…
Ga 5:15 But if you bite and devour one another, take care lest you be consumed by one another.
Ga 5:26 Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.
Col 3:9 Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices…
1 Th 5:15 See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all men.
Jas 4:11 Do not speak against one another, brethren.
Jas 5:9 Do not complain, brethren, against one another, that you yourselves may not be judged…

Forgive and Bear with One Another
Ro 15:7 Wherefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God.
Eph 4:2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love...
Eph 4:32 And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.
Col 3:13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.

Be United with One Another
Mk 9:50 Have salt in yourselves, and be at peace with one another.
Ro 12:5 so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.
Ro 12:16 Be of the same mind toward one another…
Ro 15:5 Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus…
1 Co 12:25 that there should be no division in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another.
Eph 4:25 Therefore, laying aside falsehood, SPEAK TRUTH, EACH ONE of you, WITH HIS NEIGHBOR, for we are members of one another.
1 Th 5:13 and that you esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Live in peace with one another.
1 Jn 1:7 but if we walk in the light as He Himself is in the light, we have fellowship with one another…

Show Affection to One Another
Ro 12:10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love…
Ro 16:16 Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ greet you.
1 Co 16:20 All the brethren greet you. Greet one another with a holy kiss.
2 Co 13:12 Greet one another with a holy kiss.
1 Pe 5:14 Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace be to you all who are in Christ.

How many churches can you belong to?

Q: How many churches can you belong to?

I haven't seen any statistics, but people who study the church have noticed that a growing number of Christians in America are involved with two churches. I know some people who primarily serve in one church, and are fed in another church. Other people split their time between two churches because they like different programs at each church, like worship in one church and the children's program in another.

The first thing we should consider is what we mean by church and belonging to. In the first century, Christians already used the word church in several ways: individual house churches (Rom 16:1, 5); all the churches in one town (Acts 11:22, Rev 2:1), and all Christians everywhere (Acts 9:31, Col 1:18). The most important meaning is the last one: all Christians are "baptized by one Spirit into one body" (1 Cor 12:13). So all true Christians, regardless of location or denomination, belong to the one true church. In the first century, Christians were "members" of one house church, but sometimes several house churches met together, and sometimes people (especially leaders) would visit other house churches.

So there is nothing wrong in principle with attending more than one church; in fact, it may be evidence of unity between Christians. But there is a second question: what does it mean to belong to a church? If we walk through the pages of the New Testament, we see a whole list of "one anothers" that should define our churches: love one another, value one another in humility, serve one another, build up one another, forgive one another, be united with one another, and show affection to one another (see here for 60 passages describing how Christians should treat one another). And that's only a start - we could add a whole list of other things that we should be doing as members of our churches.

With that in mind, we need to ask a question about motive: am I attending so that I can be part of the "one anothers" at both churches? Or am I only church two-timing - trying to get what I want from each church? It's possible to bless and be blessed by two churches - or it's possible to just take from each church and give nothing. Whether we attend one or two churches, we need to fully participate, giving and receiving.

If your involvement at two churches blesses other Christians and blesses you, then it may be a good thing. I have a small group Bible study that has people from four churches, and it helps build up all four churches. I attend other churches when they invite me to preach. But if you are just a consumer at both churches, then you should work on engaging in the "one anothers" at just one church.